3 Seldom Heard Words That People are Desperate to Hear

Three magical words that always land. Most people never hear them. 

Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well. ~ Voltaire 

The 3 simple words: "I appreciate you." 

Not, "Thank you." Not, "Thanks for your help." Not, "I appreciate what you did." These positive phrases acknowledge actions. We use these transactional words often. We should use them. They make the world better. Someone helped you move. You thank them. It's normal. Expected. 

"I appreciate you." Those 3 words do something different. They acknowledge the person, not what the did. Who they are. Watch the difference: Your friend shows up at the right time. You could say, "Thanks for coming." It's polite. It's correct. It acknowledges the action. "I appreciate you" acknowledges that they're the kind of person who shows up. This speaks to their character. You're letting them know you see who they are. This is rare.

People are desperate for this recognition. This is especially true in the challenging time we live in.

The world so often treats people as functions, constantly measuring people by outputs. Seeing past the doing and recognizing the being is a gift you can give to anyone. 

This phrase doesn't work if you scatter it everywhere. Reserve it for real moments, and watch what happens. It doesn’t just make the other person feel seen and valued. It strengthens your connection, builds trust, and creates moments of joy.

Here are a few examples to get started:

• I appreciate you. Your support means the world. 
• I appreciate you more than you know.
• I appreciate you. You're a lifesaver. 
• I appreciate you. You made my day.
• I appreciate you. You kindness matters. 
• I appreciate you. I'm lucky to have you in my life.
• I appreciate you. You're a blessing. 
• I appreciate the thoughtfulness you show in everything you do.  
• I appreciate you. You always make me feel better.
• I appreciate your positivity. 

The possibilities are many, but you already know that.

Remember, words can change the brain.

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This article was first published in Terry Small's Brain Bulletin newsletter.